My brother enabled Remote Login and Remote Management in Sharing. He has Remote Login (SSH) and Apple Remote Desktop showing in Firewall, and ARDAgent and ARD as apps accepting incoming connections. He opened UDP port 3283, and rebooted his router. I used "add by address" in RD, specifying his external (router's) IP address, with my user-name and password on his machine. RD found his computer in France, but showed it as offline, and failed to connect when I tried to observe it.
Next, we had him find me. I allowed all incoming connections in Firewall. He also used "add by address" in RD. He found my machine, but it also shows as offline, and failed to connect.
What next?
Thanks!
Gaz